Understanding Masking and the Neurodivergent Experience

Behind the Mask: Understanding Neurodivergent Masking

During the spooky season, thoughts turn to candy, trick or treating, costumes and masks. I often use masks as a metaphor when I work with neurodivergent clients and their families. “Masking" refers to suppressing neurodivergent traits to conform to societal expectations.

Daily masking involves evaluating environmental safety: deciding where it is safe to show overwhelm, whether to ask for accommodations, or how to avoid dismissal and misdiagnosis. You may struggle with how much movement or daydreaming is acceptable at the office; your child may struggle with sitting still in class, paying attention and task completion. Navigating complex social situations may also be a challenge.

Neurodivergence such as ADHD and Autism can pull the mind in opposite directions—balancing physical needs to move, stim or interject in conversations with expectations to sit still and show focus. This tightrope can create a cycle of unmet needs, shame and self-doubt that is hard to break. Tailored therapy targeting both masking and the feelings underneath is a vital way to build support.

Therapeutic Support for the Neurodivergent Journey

Morning Sun Therapy provides the space for clients to address focus, emotional regulation, executive functioning, and impulsivity while building effective strategies for well-being. Here are some examples of the support I can provide.

1. Self-advocacy tools. Helping clients explore limiting thoughts and behaviors that keep them from pursuing their goals and asking for what they need.

2. Insight oriented work. I work with clients to uncover long term patterns and dynamics that may stand in the way of client growth and happiness. I approach this work with curiosity and without judgement and work with the client on uncovering this mask.

3. Executive Function. As neurodivergence is the focus of my practice, I have numerous ways to work with clients to approach this herculean task. The Pomodoro Method and sensory seeking solutions are just two examples from my toolbox.

4. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). I am trained in EMDR to help clients minimize distortions they may have around their experiences and how they show up in the world.

5. Flexibility. I have expertise in numerous therapeutic modalities and integrate these modalities to fit each client’s situation and needs.

Alia Al-Zand, Morning Sun Therapy

With years of experience in mental health support, Alia Al-Zand is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#144979) who has worked with individuals from diverse backgrounds, including neurodivergent individuals, LGBTQ+, BIPOC individuals, immigrants, and professionals in high-stress careers.

Her approach is collaborative, compassionate, and practical, blending multiple therapeutic techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, Solutions-Focused Therapy, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). This multi-faceted approach ensures that each client receives personalized, effective care tailored to their unique challenges and goals.

Alia’s professional journey includes experience in school and university settings, community-based therapy, and private practice, allowing her to work with clients navigating life transitions, trauma, and emotional distress.